LOVE BEYOND WORDS BY TEMIDAYO OGUNLEYE

Love! Love! Love!

You know that word right? It’s so popular and yet terribly abused. Love on its own is beautiful but really it seems we still don’t understand what real love means but the real meaning of Love is found in God. How do we describe a man who came to pay the sacrifices for what he didn’t do, he actually died to set us free, what kind of love is that? I still can’t fathom that love till date.

Defining love is actually defining God, God is love and Love is God and we can never fully understand and know how to Love until we know God. It’s really not my job to do that today but I’ve got someone who can perfectly describe what love means, this lady has encountered this love so divine and I can say she is qualified to describe this love that is beyond words.

Temidayo wrote a book titled ‘Love beyond words’ it’s a book filled with poetic lines that describes love in simple yet enriching words. Yes, it’s your baby girl that wrote the foreword so I endorse this book. What are you waiting for?

Kindly download your copy here

Don’t forget to drop your comments after reading.

I love you!

Yours,

Onome Omodara

THIS LOVE THING: UNBROKEN 2018

 

 

Leticia was your definition of beauty with a very straight figure – slim and alluring, her legs so long and attractive, she has a stunning beauty and with her great fashion sense she could get heads turning.  It wasn’t just about beauty she is very intelligent too which explains her growth in the banking sector she was employed as a customer care representative but in three years she became a branch manager. As for love Leticia was not so lucky in that department so she embraced her career and hoped that one day her turn would come. Her mother never stopped reminding her that marriage is very important.

Jimi was a young entrepreneur with so much strength, he is very passionate about his business and it’s not surprising his wealth is multiplying daily. This particular day he woke up very angry his accountant had complained about a particular sum of money he was supposed to send into the company’s account. He made the transfer using his token, he was debited but the money was not received in the company’s account, it’s been five days.

He hated visiting the bank but he had to go as the money was urgent, he met with the customer care representative who told him it would take seven (7) working days this got him angry and he insisted on speaking with the branch manager.

He was ushered into Leticia’s office, something about her caught his attention. Was it her calmness or her patience or her genuine concern? He couldn’t place it but he knew he had to get close to her. They exchanged contacts and they became friends.

Six months later, they started dating and they were so in love. There was a particular they decided to grab some groceries at the nearest supermarket it was there Leticia saw her old friend Matthew. She was excited when she saw him, he left the country in their third year in the university, and she hugged him and introduced him to Jimi. She chatted with him for a while and went back to Jimi. On Jimi’s end he was angry why would she hug another guy and even chat with him. This is not the first time Leticia had had to greet a male friend and Jimi would be angry but this time around he was mad. Immediately they got back to the car he slapped her. He claimed she disrespected him by hugging another man.

Leticia made up her mind to break up with him but he came back begging and because she loved him she forgave him. Two months later they got married and the monster in Jimi came alive, he beat her up at any slight provocation, he made her resign from her job and Leticia became a shadow of herself. If only someone had told her about love and marriage, if only she knew what it takes to get a good man she would not be deceived by that fake smile and all the fancy gifts. She was hoping her divorce would work out but until then the universe was definitely against her.

IF WE KNOW BETTER WE WILL DO BETTER

Don’t be like Leticia, I’ve meant singles whose requirement for marriage baffles me. As long as the man has enough money character is a small thing or as long as she is pretty character is minimal. Who gave you that analogy? Marriage is real work and it takes beyond beauty and even love to have a good home. Divorce rate keeps getting higher and I wonder why? A lot of people are married and they are not happy everyday feels like hell and I discover one major reason and the bible has said it all. Hosea 4:6a says “My people perish for lack of Knowledge”. KNOWLEDGE is very important. Marriage is not a place you enter into with assumed knowledge you really need to know.

This is why I’m inviting you for UNBROKEN CONFRENCE 2018 at the Harvesters International Christian Centre Lekki. Unbroken is the annual singles and married conference of the Harvesters church, the vision was birthed 3 years ago to help change lives and cause fulfillment in relationships. With the increasing rates of divorce and separations, dysfunctional homes, marital and relationship unfulfilment, broken relationships and emotionally bruised people, a swift and effective aid must come to the institution of marriage and relationships.

Since its debut, UNBROKEN has significantly contributed to increasingly successful relationships, happier marriages, building Godly homes and UNBROKEN 2018 promises to be even richer as seemingly complex topics will be unraveled.

 

For singles the issues to be treated are:

Why am I sill single?
Why bad girls get good guys?
Identifying the right mate.
Spotting time-wasters.
Dealing with hurts and heartbreaks

 

Married people are left out either as these issues will be dissected:

Sex in marriage.
Can my marriage still work?
Improving intimacy.
How to make your partner happy.
Navigating through the first 5 years of marriage.
Dealing with extra-marital affairs.
Parenting in a tech-driven world.

The line of speakers are amazing. We have Ezekiel Atang, Hassani Pettiford, Mowumi Idowu and Bolaji Idowu.

The venue is at Harvesters International Christian Centre Lekki, Block 94, Plot 22 Providence street (beside VFS) 2nd Round about Lekki Phase 1 Lagos. The date is September 26th -30th 2018.

SEPT 26th, Time: 6pm
SEPT 27th, Time: 6pm
SEPT 28th, Time: 6pm
SEPT 29th, Time: 10am
SEPT 30th, Time: 7:10am, 8:15am, 10am, 11:45am

You can’t afford to miss it in marriage because marriage is too long to endure. Marriage is a journey of continuous learning. Don’t miss unbroken for anything! I look forward to seeing you

 

 

 

 

LETTER TO MY 23 YEAR OLD SELF

 

“Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Songs of Solomon 8:4 (NLT).

 

I celebrated my birthday last week and it took me down memory lane, I realized I made some mistakes and I have no regrets but it is expedient that the world understands that there is always a better way and some mistakes are better avoided.

 

I hope this letter encourages that single person who is tired of waiting and it helps that person who keeps trying to find love on his own terms, I’m not asking you to give up on love I’m only asking to try the best method! Before you give up read this:

 

My Dearest Onome,

Baby girl, I can see that you are trying. You have jumped from one boyfriend to another, moved from one situationship to another relationship searching for what is not lost. You wonder if God is with you. He set you up with some to help them, he used you for them but yet none is the answer. You have wondered where he is. Not one of these men is qualified to help you fulfill the assignment. He is not the one.

All your friends are in serious relationships they are flaunting their relationships on social media, you prayed for them and they are happy but you ask where your own Isaac is? You met a new guy some months ago he is handsome and classy what if he is the one? no my dear he is not the one.

You have known this one for a long while he has been on and off but you think this time around he is here to stay you gladly tell your friends about him, you are waiting for the day he will ask you out but he is yet to say anything. He keeps telling you he loves you but he is not proving it, it became worse when he forgot your birthday but you forgave him after all you love him but on his birthday you went all out flaunting him on social media stop wasting your time my darling he is not the one.

Then you met another you know he is not the one but you can’t afford to be single you think singleness is a life of loneliness but what you don’t understand is that it is a life of surrender. Every time the thought of him leaving you comes to your head you get panic attacks, you prayed that God should make him the one but you know you are not of the same passion. I know he loves God but He is not assigned to you I know it hurts but he is not the one.

Stop trying to do it without God, stop forcing the father into relationships he never ordained. Little did you know that all the father needs from you is total trust. Give him the pen of your love life and let Him write the best story with it.

Little did you know that all the efforts you are putting in getting people to see you or men to like you, God wants you to invest in Him. He wants you to seek him with the whole of your heart and he in turn will bless you with the desires of your heart.

Little did you know that years from now you will meet your man. This man will love you passionately, he will gladly show you off, he will be God’s gift to you. Do you know that he will love you with all his might and apologize deeply when he is wrong? Do you know this man will lead you back to the father? He will pray for you and with you. Do you know that He will love you like Christ loves the church? Do you know he will not be shy to tell everyone you are his? Do you know he will treat you like a queen that you are? Do you know together you will fulfill purpose and serve the father forever?

Do you know that it’s possible to have undeniable peace in a relationship?  Do you know that the validation you think you can get from another man can ONLY come from God?

Baby girl, you have tried. Now rest. You are smart and beautiful, you don’t need any man’s validation, you are a complete being. you deserve to be loved and valued, you deserve to be happy.  stop doing it your own way. rest in the father’s love. Love who you are and the woman you are becoming. Be patient love will find you at the right time.

Enjoy singleness and be deeply rooted in the father. This man is worth waiting for so while you wait be prepared.

Your big sister,

Onomewrites.

 

CONCLUSION

I know waiting is tough if you ask me I have a lot of stories to tell but I’m a testimony that nothing is wrong with being satisfied in your singleness. Nothing is wrong with you chasing the father. Stop trying to seek validation from men, you are complete in Christ. Stop chasing love let your heart find rest in the father’s love! The wait is always worth it because the right one will make you forget all the pains.

I love you!

Your friend and sister,

Omodara Onome

 

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SINGLE WITHOUT WRINKLE

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Guess what?

This book opened my own eyes personally and it brought me close to tears at some point because like every other young person I thought being in a relationship is the most important until I got to discover some hard truths which I shared in this book. The beautiful thing about this book is that even if you are engaged it will definitely help you, please make sure you read it with your spouse. I am so glad that I am able to share this with you! I am sure you will enjoy the meal as Pastor Bayo Olaiya called it.

It is an ebook (in pdf format) published by Fourz media.

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Thank you so much for being a part of this vision, I could not have done this without you; you give me reasons to keep moving on. Please share this page on your social media accounts with every one and let’s impact the world together.

You don’t have to give up on love there is a better way!!!

Cheers!!

Onome Omodara

(onomewrites)

ZONED RELATIONSHIPS

ZONED RELATIONSHIPS

Daniel had met Leticia at an event and they had kicked off from there, they became best of friends and they would always spend time together every day. Leticia saw Daniel as a confidant and she always enjoyed talking to him, in three months they got to know everything about each other. Over time Leticia started seeing him as a brother and without Daniel noticing she stylishly relegated him to the brother zone but there was just one problem Daniel wanted more but what could he do, he accepted his fate that he has been zoned by the lady he has grown to love passionately.

A lot of relationships that had the potentials to happen have been stylishly thrown away all in the name of zones but I discovered something in my experience and encounter with people it takes two people to successfully zone each other, both the zoner and the zonee played a major role in making a zoned relationship happen. Zoned relationships does not just happen it has started long before we realized it, the way you handle matters in relationship, you have plans to date a lady and then all of a sudden you start acting as if you are her father she will end up putting you in a box, the way you relate with the opposite sex goes a long in determining the strength and length of that relationship

SPIRITUAL FATHER ZONE

I really need to talk particularly about this zone; this particular zone level is common among university students and graduates. I’m yet to understand you are in 400 level and you are busy forming spiritual father for a lady you want to go out with, the wife you should marry you are there calling her daughter, the girl has a built a trust relationship around you so much that she dumps all her relationship problems at your feet and then you automatically assume the post of an assistant holy spirit and you are there burning inside even God is just watching you.

I’m very scared of this zone, the day you start acting as if you are her father the lady starts to pattern her life and thinking system to see you as a father figure. 

Brothers, don’t assume a post God did not put you, don’t take a job you were not employed to do. Stop choking a lady and acting as if you her father all in the name of trying to help her, as much as she needs your help be wise about it.

Before you zone him/her wait!

A lot of people have been so quick to make decisions they end up regretting, before you zone a person off be very sensitive and be very sure because over time you get to see their potentials and then you want to reconsider so I implore you to be patient before you throw that guy or lady in a zone. Time is a revealer of things before you make a hasty decision be patient.

I learnt a lesson some years back about zoning people, the guy you think does not have potentials or that lady you think is not smart enough you might be surprised to see them months or years later looking so different because everybody has great potentials some just find theirs before others. You really need to be sensitive because a lot of times your emotions can fail you so never use your emotions as a yard stick to zoning anybody off.

I understand that when you meet a person you want to be a friend so as to get to know them but the mistake a large number of us make is that we assume a position of authority while trying to be friends, be simple and keep your heart open, the way you relate with him or her goes a long way. The secret to not being zoned is this: be wise and smart in your relationships when a lady starts calling you “brother” stylishly reject it that is if you have the intentions to go out with her, don’t be comfortable with titles that are not yours especially when she calls you “best friend” stylishly let her know you have intentions so that you get zoned. 

CONCLUSION

There is always a solution to every problem, if you have been zoned then it’s not time to panic and accept fate take a bold step and make your intentions known. Love itself is a risk and you must be willing to take that risk.

I have seen guys who have been in a box and they gladly came out of it but you have to be willing to take that risk, I know a lot of you are scared of the relationship tearing apart but until you try you will never know, I’m sure you read Banky W and Adesua’s love story she has successfully zoned him but he tried getting out by making his intentions known, it’s never late to make your intentions known I implore you to take that risk it’s always worth it at the end of the day.

Omodara Onome

Life and relationship coach.