In May 2017, social media and blogs were on fire. Everyone was reposting and sharing this love story. Two A-list celebrities just got engaged. It was so sweet and cheesy; our faves were getting married. I remember that season of my life because I had just ended a relationship and was having a love walk with the lord.

I was so jealous of this love story. I remember when they announced they were getting married in November 2017, everyone wanted to be a part of their wedding. I was one of the people who stayed glued on Instagram to watch their wedding live. We, the online guests, really meant business. I watched their vows with admiration. I can’t even deny I want what they have.

When Banky released that track, he called “Susu’s Song”, I streamed it all the time. I just love these two. I want a man like Banky. I have always wanted a man who can sing all my life. I wanted a man who would release a track for me, too, it’s so goofy, but I love it. Banky felt like the perfect man; I’m sure God was up there laughing and wondering when this child would trust me.

I’m not a hopeless romantic, but I love to see beautiful marriages. I love it when a man dotes on his woman and is not shy to acknowledge it. When I met my husband, he was not Banky W; well, he can hold a key sometimes when he is singing, but no offence if that man releases a track, I’m not buying it because it’s not his calling, lol.

I almost lost a good man because I wanted him to be the man I had envisioned, so when we started dating, we had some silly arguments because I wanted him to be what God did not create him to be. I kept trying to make him into something he was not. I was angry when he was not working on any project; I just wanted him to be out there like Banky W.

Somewhere in my heart, I was comparing him to somebody I had never met. One day, the Holy Spirit asked me, “Do you trust me? then remove the idol in your heart and let me mould this man”.

That was the day I buried my obsession and trusted the father with this man He gave me. My relationship got better, and I allowed my partner to be the man God wants him to be. When I look at him, I am grateful and blessed to have a patient man like him because it takes patience to deal with me.

I don’t know if you are anything like me, you want a love story like your favourite celebrity couple but can I advise that you trust God with those dreams and lists. The person you admire has their flaws, don’t compare your partner to somebody else; it’s not nice.


“Find your delight and true pleasure in Yahweh, and he will give you what you desire the most. Give God the right to direct your life, and as you trust him along the way, you’ll find he pulled it off perfectly” (Psalm 37:4-5)         TPT

When you find your delight in God, He will grant your desires. I did not marry a Banky W. I married the one for me who treats me like a queen. Everything I wanted, God gave me more. God knows more than you, so I challenge you to rip that list and let the father give you beyond your imagination. God can be trusted!

You are loved!


Papa and Onome.


  1. Amazing! Truth just got spilled out without repentance. Our marriage or marred life should be a reflection of God, not that of some “perfect couple” we know. We can have couple models, but God should be the ultimate. The bigger undoing of this generation is that in their mind there is a picture they painted of the kinda man/woman they want and so they miss God’s perfect man/woman.

    Preach it for the world to see.

    Kudos dear Onome

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